Saturday, August 7, 2010

I love this

How to befriend an introvert.

1. If you must drag them to a party, please don’t abandon them. Don’t go rushing off to catch up with your other friends without including the introvert; the inny will die in a corner.

2. If they actually call and want to talk, listen! These moments may not come often, since Innies usually work out their problems within their own brains, but that does not mean they are all Bella Swan “suffer in silence” types.

3. Realize that they do want to be alone sometimes. They may have gone to that party, and even enjoyed it, but they burn out faster than you and need time to recharge alone. The assumption that all introverts are shy really bugs me. This is not always the case. They can be charming, tell jokes, and generally be the life of the party…but for a limited time only.

4. Skip the small talk. Introverts are reflective beings and enjoy conversations about feelings and debating things like the ontological argument, and whatever interests they have. They can only tolerate chitchat with people they just met or haven’t seen for awhile. If you must tell them your entire jam-packed weekend in detail, check your inny friend for signs of consciousness periodically.

5. Introverts don’t hate people. They just find them tiring.

6. Introverts are socially aware. Yes, we are well-versed in social nuances, customs, and mannerisms; we just don’t implement them as frequently as extroverts do.

I first saw this on Kaylah's tumblr but it's from here. I love a good article about introverts. Every time I try to explain to someone I am an introvert, they automatically disagree and seem to think introvert means shy or unsociable. It just means we like time to think. :)

This article, Introverts Unit! Quietly... is another great look into the introvert. I love these kind of articles. ♥

Have a wonderful Saturday! I'm off to make another string of bunting for my room. :)

Love and Turtledoves,



  1. I love being introverted. Thanks for sharing these wonderful facts because introverts are always misunderstood. My favorite was the one about introverts not hating people because its so true.

  2. Not sure if I agree with you that introverts are the more reflective "half" of the population... I've always thought of it as extroverts learn about self mainly through interactions with others (and then self reflection on those experiences) while introverts learn about self through internalizing and self experimentation...

    just my thoughts.

  3. from a fellow introvert, it's right on! thanks for sharing :)

  4. my husband is an introvert we get along like two little peas in a pod...i love it because i don't always feel like talking and it is nice to hang out together and not small talk sucks is always so awkward...but we have hung around people that are so bothered by his shyness and quietness....people end up thinking that he hates them which is totally not the case...thanks for sharing this...more people need to understand!



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